The Desire Gauge: When Sexual Desirability is Tied to Self-Worth

What are the different ways in which your Sexual Desirability may be tied your Self-Worth? Cathy Vartuli from the IntimacyDojo interviews Little Woo about her new talk at the ConvergeCon 2019 conference! Her talk will be offered live at the conference on Saturday March 30, 2019 at 11am. You can buy conference tickets HERE.

Many of us have been objectified or hyper-sexualized so that we derive our sense of value, power or opportunity from how much desire we can provoke in others. Whether we like to hunt or be hunted, we can be extremely consumed with it or be extremely depressed when there is a lack of it. While sexual desire is an invigorating and healthy energy, it can be also very debilitating to equate it with happiness or self-worth. The obsession with being desired can also lead us to engage in interactions that are not safe or not aligned with our true wishes. If we measure ourselves by the Desire Gauge, it can take up a lot of our precious energy and block us from sharing the fullness of who we are.

In this session, we’ll look at how this gauge has impacted our lives in real ways and explore how we can cultivate a healthy self-esteem that includes desire but is no longer run by it. Little Woo is a spiritual mentor who helps unconventional creatives express their true selves and honor their higher purpose in their relationships and livelihood. To contact her directly or learn more about this work, visit

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